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5 Proven Tips To Thrive Not Just Survive When Caring For A Spouse

Nov 06, 2018

Are you surrounded by friends and loved ones who are caring for their spouses?

I am.

My friends and loved ones are all at different levels of care, some just starting the care journey as their partner has recently been diagnosed with dementia or another friend who's partner just had life-altering surgery.

The stories I am hearing, had me stop and ponder about the times I have had to care for my spouse and the range of emotions that went through this journey of caring.

What I came up with was: Caring for a loved one, especially a spouse can stir up lots of emotions.

Below are my five powerful tips to help you the caregiver, feel a deep sense of connection and fulfillment in your role or at least not want to throw a pot in your spouse's direction.

Tip 1:
Schedule daily 15-minutes of self-care

Many of you are asking, where do I have 15 minutes per day for myself? What would Harry or (insert spouse's name) do without me? I am going to venture to say that Harry will be just fine for 15 minutes. Harry might enjoy the break from you!

  • Self-care is not Selfish care

  • This time is for you to do something that brings you joy, peace and a sense of pleasure

  • A bath, yoga, call your grandkids or garden. Just do something for you.


Tip 2:
Don’t try to fix everything

Be an attentive listener and listen with an opened mind and heart rather than listening to fix something. When you listen to understand, you and your spouse will benefit by both feeling understood.

  • Listen to understand

  • Use non-verbal cues to let your spouse know you are listening

  • Face your spouse and engage in the conversation


Tip 3:
Respite Care is OKAY

Being a caregiver is really hard. One of the biggest challenges in most cases is the 24/7 role and that the spouse becomes more dependent not less. Here are some suggestions to tap into for assistance.

  • Day facilities for seniors
  • Senior's homes that offer short-term stay options • Private in-home care professionals


Tip 4:

Practice gratitude

Gratitude helps us see our situation in a way that can lessen panic and open up our thinking to new solutions.

  • Take 15 minutes and watch the Gratitude Revealed by Louie Schwartzberg

  • Get an app on your phone for daily gratitude journals and inspirational quotes.

  • Check out Josie Robinson's site at for helpful hints for gratitude jars.


Tip 5:
Life is not always fair, but life is still beautiful

Challenge your assumptions because everything you thought was fair and just in the world, was just thrown out of the window.

  • Acknowledge that your relationship has changed. • Accept that you will have challenging days.
  • Appreciate the good days.

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